FAQs
WHERE ARE YOU LOCATED?
My workspace is located in Oakland, Ca, in the San Francisco Bay Area. I do not do outcalls at this time.
WHAT CAN I EXPECT DURING A MASSAGE LIKE THIS?
In general, a sensual massage is a delicious massage experience that differs from a traditional therapeutic massage in these ways:
- the massage will be done without a drape (no sheet covering you)
- you will be completely nude on the table
- your provider will be at some level of undress (perhaps completely nude, or in her panties, or in lingerie, for comfort)
- she will likely use her torso and chest along with her arms and legs to massage your whole body
- she will incorporate your entire body in the massage
- you are invited to experience your arousal and turn-on. A climax or ejaculation is never considered part of a session, though it may occur. Any money exchanged is for time only.
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In a session with me you will be fully nude on my table. I do not use a drape. I will be in a slip or just panties at all times, massaging you with Swedish and deep tissue massage strokes interwoven with wonderful light and feathery touches, using my entire body at times. Because I’m recovering from a major surgery to my abdomen that took place in 2023, I prefer to not be touched at this time. Your deep relaxation is my priority. Your body may respond with arousal.
Keep in mind that every provider (a.k.a. sensual massage therapist) is unique, with a unique beauty, expertise and ability. Therefore each sensual massage you experience in your life will be delightfully different, even if it’s with the same provider.
I'M A SENSUAL MASSAGE CONNOISSEUR. WHAT CAN I EXPECT FROM A SESSION WITH YOU?
Whether your interest is sensual touch, tantric massage, or conscious kink, you can expect a richly nourishing environment, a powerfully intuitive guide, and an immensely pleasurable experience. You can expect my full attention to the needs of your body, mind, and spirit, and all of my training and gifts at your service. You can expect exquisite touch from head to toe, intelligent interactions, a hot shower, refreshments, lovely music, candles, sweet smells…all the richness and juicy sensuality of the Divine Feminine.
I have created an exquisite oasis of depth, connection, rejuvenation, and relaxation especially for you!
DO YOU PROVIDE A SHOWER?
Yes, a wonderful, hot, relaxing shower is available when you arrive as well as at the end of the session. Please plan on showering twice when you are here. Once before the session to give an extra important scrub to your armpits and pelvic + anal area, and once after to wash off any oils or scents you don’t want to take with you.
ARE YOU EVER AVAILABLE MORNING, EVENINGS, NIGHTS OR WEEKENDS FOR MASSAGE SESSIONS?
Yes, I am occasionally, but only with advanced scheduling and for an additional fee. I charge an additional $100 “convenience” fee for sessions scheduled to begin after 6pm or weekends (Friday-Sunday). Some exceptions may apply so let’s discuss options and opportunities if your schedule does not permit you to session with me during my usual business hours: Tuesday to Thursday 10am-6pm.
WHAT IS YOUR CANCELLATION/RE-SCHEDULE POLICY?
An appointment for pleasure is still a business appointment. I require 24-hour’s notice by phone (with email or text follow up) for any cancellations or re-scheduling of sessions. If less than 24 hours is given (without a specific and sensible reason that is acceptable to me), I reserve the right to refuse to see a client in the future unless 50% of the missed session is paid prior to scheduling a future session and/or a future session is pre-paid in full, and will be non-refundable if the session is missed. Similarly, if a client is a no-show/no-call and does not call to explain the reason within 12 hours of the session time, the client will automatically be black-listed and all relevant contact information will be posted to the appropriate lists, forums, and websites for unreliable clients. In conclusion, be considerate. That way everyone has a good time!
DOES THE SESSION DURATION MEAN JUST THE TIME I'M ON THE TABLE?
Session duration means (as with any professional you’d work with) the moment you walk through the door (or the appointed start time, if you’re late), a bathroom/shower visit, a brief in-take, table time/ritual session, shower, debriefing, and departure. My sessions will typically include a few extra minutes as opposed to you ever leaving before the entire time is up.
Please note: If you’re running late because you did not properly plan your arrival, it is up to my discretion whether I will still consider our original start time as the start of the session’s duration or if I will consider the moment you walk through the door as the start time. Thank you.
DO YOU OFFER DISCOUNTS? DO YOU BARTER? ARE YOUR RATES NEGOTIABLE?
I don’t barter, trade or negotiate my rates. However, I do offer a $100 discount when you sign up for my newsletter via a sign up form or via my new client intake form. I also offer a $100 discount if you pay for any session in-full in advance of the session. Note that discounts can’t be combined.
I'D LIKE TO BRING YOU A GIFT. WHAT KINDS OF THINGS DO YOU LIKE TO RECEIVE AS TOKENS OF AFFECTION AND APPRECIATION?
I always love wines without sulfites, organic chocolates or other organic treats, and bouquets of pink starburst lilies. Additionally, I very much appreciate gift certificates for Whole Foods, Amazon.com, Apple, and lingerie companies like Naked and Agent Provocateur. Pre-paid credit cards are wonderful tokens of appreciation also. Thank you!
WHAT SETS YOU APART FROM OTHER PROVIDERS?
Since a young age I have been a deeply introspective person, particularly about sexuality, sensuality and spirituality in my life. Sexuality and sensuality have been far more than physical phenomena. They have possessed a direct link to the spiritual for me, whether I’ve been able to describe it or not, and this has inspired my quest for personal and sensual discovery over the past two decades.
I see my sensitivity to the marriage of sex and spirit as a huge part of what sets me apart from other FBSM providers. With ancient wisdom teachings inspiring much of the work I do, I am committed to providing my clients with opportunities to not only experience their own erotic pleasure in session but to learn and grow from it as well.
Additionally, my commitment to personal growth, incessant learning, my training and certification as a life coach, counselor, sex educator, and Urban Tantra™ practitioner, as well as the intensive world travel I have done over the years and continue to make me a truly one-of-a-kind provider.
What is the difference between a Bondassage™ session and an Elysium session?
Whereas Bondassage™ focuses on a variety of sensations with implements and tools, leather bondage, and a constant increasing and decreasing of intensity to amplify the 5 senses, Elysium is focused on lots of slow, soft touch, silky bondage, minimal impact play, and lots and lots of edging. Elysium is, by design, a slower, softer, more sensual and seductive kind of a session.
HOW DID YOU BECOME INTERESTED IN THIS WORK?
Each of our paths leads us to where we are for distinct and perfect reasons. The short version of the story is that I became interested in sacred sensuality and erotic education as a way to heal the schism in my own understanding of sensuality and sexuality. I was raised Catholic in the South, and unfortunately received many mixed messages from my religion and culture about sexuality. I have dedicated a large part of my life’s work to re-integrating sexuality and spirituality in myself and in the world.
This work is a passion as much as a vocation for me. My path and expression of the work is continually refining itself. My ultimate focus is on teaching the energetics of sexuality (Tantra and Sexual Shamanism), re-educating my clients and students about sexuality and intimacy as tools for personal and spiritual growth, and working with individuals and couples to harness their erotic energies towards spiritual wholeness and conscious and creative relationships.
WHY DO YOU HAVE A PERSONAL ASSISTANT?
I work with a wonderful personal assistant to be sure I don’t miss a single email, intake form, or inquiry. She helps me to complete pre-screening of new clients. She’s also my safety contact. She knows where I am and who I am with throughout my work day. This ensures your safety and mine.
You can reach us both at YesPlease@YourEroticEvolution.com
FOR MY FIRST-TIME CLIENTS AND NEWBIES: READ THIS
I always liked this explanation of ideal protocol for scheduling. I did not write it, nevertheless, it expresses my sentiments exactly.
WRITTEN BY THE GILDED ROSE
Would you like to increase your odds of seeing the provider of your choice? Here are a few VERY SIMPLE tips to make your ending happy!
- READ the provider’s ad and/or website. I mean from top to bottom. Nothing is more aggravating to a provider than to have someone call who has only looked at the picture and gotten the phone number. Your odds of impressing her (and not wasting your time) are untold.
- If you are emailing, write her a letter something akin to a business letter. Introduce yourself, give your name and announce that you wish to make an appointment. If she requires references (which you have no doubt found out by READING her ad/website), this would be a good time to go ahead and give them to her.
- Again, you will increase your odds 110% by being polite and using proper English. None of this: “i wunt se yu.how muck?” Remember that delightful technology known as spell check! It was made for a reason!
- When giving references, please do not write “I saw Sue in Oakland.” Despite the fact that you think we have a global tracking unit in our brains on every girl who has ever worked or will work, we really do not! Despite the fact that there are 200 Sues in Oakland, it speeds up the process if you give as much detail as you can. Please also CONTACT Sue in Oakland and ask if she gives references. That sweet little cutie may just have a chip on her shoulder when it comes to her sistren. It happens.
- One last thing, again, the polite business letter. Not the badly misspelled one sentence, or even worse, the “hi.” End of email. We are quite good at using the DELETE key these days!
- Do not call when you HAVE to see her in 1/2 hour or bust. Most providers need time to stop what they are doing, freshen up the space and themselves, which does take a bit of time (not including finding your references if she does that.)
- Also, please try not to schedule an appointment when you know you might have tons of business interruptions. She might forgive you once, but two or three times, fuhgeddiboudit!
- Once at her incall, please remember to place the donation on her coffee table (in an envelope is quite nice.)
- Please, when taking a shower, clean front to BACK! You might not think you smell offensive, but ya do. Trust me, ya do. Maybe you are saying to yourself, you could care less. But if you care for good service, look to yourself before you start throwing stones…
Follow these simple steps and you’ll be an ideal client for me and anyone you contact for any kind of sensual arts service!!!
Cheers!
Experience a nourishing environment
I encourage you to be curious…especially about yourself. I invite you to ask questions and engage me in conversation about sexuality, intimacy, relationships, even personal growth and spiritual topics, if so inclined. All of my training and gifts are at your service. You can expect exquisite touch, intelligent guidance, a hot shower, chocolates, lovely music, candles, sweet smells…all the richness and beauty of the supremely Divine Feminine.
